“Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.”
Death is something inevitable. It
will all come to us sooner or later. That is something we all understand. But
still, it hits hard when someone very dear to us pass away. It’s probably the
most heart wrenching event of our lives. We feel a lot of emotions that is too
much to bear. When this moment happen to you. Know that you are not alone.
5 stages of grief by
Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, author of “On Death and Dying”
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"Numbing the pain for a while will make it worse when you finally feel it." – Albus Dumbledore
Not all
people have the same way of grieving. Whether you cry your heart out or don’t
talk to anybody for a while, you are entitled to it. What’s important is to
address your feelings. You may also feel regrets, guilt, anger and confusion
along with that devastating pain, express it. You may talk to other love ones
about how you feel (but do it when you’re ready) or you can find a creative way
to express your feelings. Some may tell you that you have to be strong in
facing your loss, but a strong facade will only delay the inevitable. You will
still feel it and though grief doesn’t have a deadline, it will only prolong
your healing process.
Also,
allow you family and friends to be there for you. It will help to have a
support group whom you can talk to about your feelings (when you already feel
like it) and sometimes, their mere presence can be a comfort already. It’s good
to know that there are people who will support you, but then, you have to let
them in.
“It is only when no one remembers that you are truly lost. That is the true death.” -Michael Scott
Cherish
all those memories you created together. At first, reminiscing can be very
painful. But eventually, this will help you find solace for your loss. They are
never truly gone so long as you keep those memories with you.
“Do not pity the dead. Pity the living. And above all, those who live without love.” –Albus Dumbledore
Personally,
the only way I achieved the final stage of grief easier than some will call
necessary is because I always believed that one day, all of us will reach the
end of the line. Either me first, or the ones I love. And somewhere, wherever
they are, they are happier than I am for they are already in a place where
there can be no pain, only love, peace and happiness. Don’t get it wrong. I
still feel the pain from time to time and I don’t think it will really go away.
But it’s no longer overwhelming. When I remember them, it’s now mixed up with
good memories.
And
lastly, as you cherish the memories of your loss loved one, do not forget (and
be afraid) to create more with your other love ones. Do not shut yourself away.
Our loss should be a reminder of how short life can be. Celebrate life. Enjoy
life. Gain Peace.
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